4 Questions to Find Your Calling

I don’t believe callings, dreams or paths need to be big in order to be worthy. Some turn out to be big, but the size of them isn’t what makes them a path or a calling. It is just essentially how they make us feel. 

And I do find that a lot of people are unsatisfied with their life until they start living authentically, or in other words, start doing shit they love. 

I used to think that I needed to make peace with the mundane in my life and that I was stupid for ever wanting more than mundane. I watched people laughing and having a good time in spite of their mundane and felt as though there was something wrong with me for feeling so damn numb within my mundane stuff. 

Reaaaaaally happy that I found a window out of that world of thought ’cause holy crappola that was causing me grief.

My realisation and new way of thinking was (and still is) that it’s not what I thought. 

Those people who I thought were happy with their ‘mundane’? One of two things is going there. Either: 

1) What I percieved to be their mundane isn’t really mundane to them. They love it! It is exactly what fills them up with joy. They ARE on their path, it’s just a different path to mine. 


2) They’re bullshitting. Not really happy. And covering up their unhappiness with facades of fake ‘we-must-look-like-we-fucking-love-our-perfect-lives’ laughter. 

And either way, that’s okay. My big lesson was that it isn’t me. There’s nothing wrong with me wanting something different. There’s nothing wrong with whatever I want! 

There’s nothing wrong with whatever YOU want! 🙂 

My biggest inspiration that keeps me going in life and dance is my “follow your heart” motto.

‘Cause I just don’t think you can go wrong with that baby. 

This subject of following your heart, finding your path, realising your dream etc. fascinates me. I am intensely drawn to it. 

Why some people do it and others don’t. 

What gets in the way of fulfilling your dream and how to work around those obstacles. 

How to let go of always having to know and plan the way forward and let your path show you the way.

How you even find out what your path is!

I have been reading and watching more and more about this subject recently, just because I am so drawn to it. And I wanted to share these four gems of questions that I really love.

These questions are from Steven Pressfield and Oprah Winfrey — from one of Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday interviews.

Okay, so these are 4 helpful questions to ask yourself, if you want to know what your calling/path/dream is:

1) What are you more afraid of doing, than anything in the world?

2) What would you do if you knew you were going to die in 3 months?

3) What would you do if fear were not a factor?

4) Did you want to do something when you were a child that you were told you couldn’t or shouldn’t do? 

And here is the video clip from this insightful interview…


I hope this post is helpful to someone, or at the very least, a fun read.

xxx Zoë


2 thoughts on “4 Questions to Find Your Calling”

  1. Fantastic post. I love your opening paragraph, here: that’s such an immensely valuable lesson for — well, certainly for the vast majority of us in the Western world!

    One of your points speaks directly to my experience. I worked for about four years as a quality assurance specialist in a software development setting. I hated every minute of it and assumed my co-workers also did.

    Bizarrely, it was some corporate-training BS that enlightened me to the idea that some people actually liked that job! It had never occurred to me that such a thing was possible, but I looked around, and my co-workers were like, “Yeah! That’s me!”

    To them, it was like being a detective, almost — sleuthing out errors in the code, feeling the satisfaction of working with Programming to get them sorted just as detectives work with the court system to bring criminals to justice or free the wrongfully-accused. To me, it was just a horrible slog that had to be endured while sitting down (in other words, pretty much my individual vision of Hell).

    Needless to say, I’m now training for a new career as a Dance-Movement Therapist, studying ballet again, doing silly choreography projects on the side, and happier than I’ve ever been at any point in my life. I might not ever do anything that The Grand Scope Of History regards as Important-with-a-capital-I, but this is the one shot I get at living this particular life, and I figure I might as well enjoy it.

    Sorry this is so long. Just discovered your blog a few days ago, and I’m really enjoying it. Thanks!

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    1. Thank you Asher, I’m glad you enjoyed it. It’s so helpful to see the individuality of all our dreams and hopes. Makes us realise we are okay for wanting something different.
      Good luck with your journey, sounds amazing!

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