(This is a slightly rehashed post of an older post. Just had some extra thoughts I wanted to add.)
Pictures speak a thousand words but sometimes they hide a thousand more.
All the social media platforms we all use are so great in connecting us with other people travelling a similar journey or following someone who inspires you or being able to inspire others yourself.But with these social media platforms can come the temptation to create a facade of your life because all the snap shots you post from small moments in your days combine to create a big picture that looks like you’ve got it all together.
Social comparison is not a new thing. But it’s a growing epidemic because there are so many more ways we can socially compare ourselves to others now. And I think sometimes we can use it to hide the uncomfortable truths about ourselves that either we are afraid to share, or we think others are afraid to see.
Unfortunately, there is so much shaming from society about so many parts of our lives, that it can become impossible to feel okay about ourselves.
So I’d like to start sharing my uncomfortable truths more. And here is my first…
One of my chronic health conditions causes muscle tremors. They’re always there but vary in severity. Sometimes I wake up like this and can barely hold a cup of tea, and sometimes they are milder.
They affect my whole body.
They are always this severe or worse about 10minutes into any physical exertion. Imagine the shaky legs you feel after an intense workout, except your muscles are actually spasming. All over your body, and rather than being a feeling but not something visible, your limbs are visibly tremoring/shaking/wobbling around. So people in your real life can see and they’re staring and wondering what’s wrong with you.
But in just a photo (that you can use on social media – that you can use to portray yourself a certain way), you can, to satisfy that extremely self conscious part of yourself, make it look like that isn’t a true part of your life — another uncomfortable truth.
That’s my first uncomfortable truth.
I was mindful about posting this.
But fuck it. I don’t want to be seen as perfect because I’m not perfect.
I’m far from perfect, and so is life.
Just because Mother Nature can cause intense damage, doesn’t mean you would deny that she is also overwhelmingly beautiful!
As are we. Flawed and fabulous. 😉
I may struggle and fall and fail, but I will keep trying. And it is in the trying that lay my success. I hope I have the courage to keep posting more of these uncomfortable truths. Because I want them to become comfortable truths.
Because it is okay that I am who I am and my body does what it does. This should not be something I feel ashamed of.
I’m going to hashtag these posts #uncomfortabletruth and #loveyourtruth
If anyone else feels like they want to share one of their uncomfortable truths, that would be awesome. I’d love to hear it, so please tag me in your post. You will not be shamed by me.
I will support you and love you regardless, because your struggle is part of what makes you who you are, the whole you, and the whole you deserves love. Not just the social media presented you.
This post, and any future Ines like it, are not to generate pity, they are to generate solidarity among each other, that we will not be defined by social comparison any longer. And that we are strong, amazing individuals, who are living our journeys and respect the challenges that each of us face.
And if I lose followers from all this then so be it. I’d rather promote self-love and acceptance with two followers, than self-abuse with thousands.
Love (and a soft place to land) to all.
Z. Inez xxx
P.S, I leave you with one of my recent mandalas…