You may think you need to be better.
But you don’t.
You may think you need to be more like someone else.
But you don’t.
You might feel inadequate in so many areas of your being that you feel you will never be enough for anyone.
But you aren’t. And you are.
You may feel like you’ll never measure up.
But you already do.
You might look around you and only see others doing it better.
But that’s not the truth.
You may feel like you’re falling short. Losing face.
But you’re not.
You may feel like everyone around you, everywhere you look, are on incredible trajectories towards imminent success while you’re still trying to figure out whether you’re an over or under person when it comes to your toilet paper.
But they’re probably not. And it’s okay if you’re either or both! 😉
Those who have seen my health issues know that things have been really tough for me.
I could easily think of myself as having a harder time than others. I could easily choose to feel that others have been dealt fantastic hands while I’ve not even been dealt one full hand. But firstly, thinking that way serves me no purpose. It doesn’t help me at all. And secondly, it’s all relative: there are others who are facing much harder challenges than I am.
You see, I have learnt that comparison is poison. It only creates anger, contempt, jealousy and a whole lot of other negative emotions. And it’s completely unnecessary. So we can opt out.
We can opt out.
I want to hug the world right now. I want to tell you all, whatever your battles, whatever your goals, to please stop believing that other people have it miraculously easier than others.
I want to especially tell the world that your self-worth does not lie in where you measure up against the people around you.
Your self-worth is measured purely on the value you give yourself.
The only person who gets to decide what you’re worth is you.
Do you hear me?
YOU GET TO CHOOSE!
You! No one else. Just you.
And the true beauty of it all is that no assessment is needed.
You’re worth the fucking world, because you were born. You deserve love, because you were born. You deserve respect, because you were born.
Don’t start assessing yourself. That’s being an arsehole to yourself. Don’t do that.
Seriously, no assessment needed. You’re awesome. Just as you are. You’re doing what you do, aiming for goals, attempting this thing called life, in your way, how you see fit.
You can do life, the way it feels right for you.
Because living life by someone else’s rule book sucks a bag, and is completely unnecessary.
If you start doubting your ability to just be you, remember…
Your beauty lies in your flaws.
Your true self can only shine in your vulnerability.
You are accessible through your mistakes.
Absolutely. Every. Single. Person. On. The. Fucking. Planet. Fucks. Up. All. The. Fucking. Time.
Most people are just scrambling hard to hide their mistakes.
But they’re making them. Oh, boy, are they making them!
It’s impossible to not make mistakes, to not have flaws, to not be imperfect.
So, world, take a breath.
Give yourself permission to be you.
No comparisons needed.
No comparisons wanted.
Just be your beautiful, glorious, unique self.
P.S: photo of me, being me…